When a relationship comes to an end, there are often unresolved feelings held by one of the parties. This notwithstanding, it can be a bit uncomfortable when your ex just won’t move on and leave you alone. If you’re in this situation, read on to see what you can do to resolve the issue and reclaim your life.
Remind Them Why the Relationship Ended
One of the best ways to deal with an ex that just won’t leave you alone is to remind them why your relationship failed to work out in the first place. Whether you had a major fight or came up against an issue that’s an absolute deal-breaker for you, it’s good to remind them about it happening and maybe this will enable them to see why the relationship failed. This might help to give your ex some much-needed closure as well.
Establish Solid Boundaries
Establishing solid boundaries is something else that will help you get space from an ex that won’t let go of the past. Let them know that it’s not okay for them to try and contact you for any reason if you don’t want them to. If they persist, you could block them on social media and other places where they might try to contact you and see if they will get the message then.
Keep Your Safety in Mind
Your safety should be a priority for you, so if, for any reason, you feel as though you might be in danger, it’s good to take precautions. With 805,879 crimes reported to law enforcement throughout the state in 2019, according to statistics shared by the Texas Department of Public Safety, it’s important to prioritize your safety. Out of these, 120,508 were violent crimes while 685,371 were property crimes.
Be Firm But Don’t Get Angry
When communicating with your ex, always be as firm as you can, but avoid angry outbursts. Letting them see your anger when you talk with them will let them know that they can still get under your skin and this will work against you in the long run. Make sure to stay calm and collected any time you have to talk with them about anything and they will have a better chance of understanding that what you had with them is over.
Seek the Help of a Professional
If all else fails, you may need to involve a professional. If the issue is more along the lines of persistently trying to communicate with you, you may block them, but if they start to physically stalk you and try to get close to you uninvited, you may need to get a restraining order against them. When an ex starts to impact your lifestyle in a negative way such as forcing you to change the way you do things and the places you go, it’s important to work hard at putting a stop to that. Keep in mind that during a divorce, a judge can decide that the spouse who has a lower earning potential should get more than 50% of the marital property.
Get a Good Support System
Finally, surround yourself with friends and family who care for you and can offer a listening ear or a shoulder to cry on when you need one. When you do this, you will have an easier time standing strongly against any advances that your ex may try to make. You will also be able to get positive help and advice that will make things work out better for you.
Following these steps should help you get rid of a persistent ex and enjoy your new single life in the best way possible.